There are times when family affairs disappoint you. On page 79 ‘Outside the Box’, there are five suggestions on how to handle disappointment. What do you think of each suggestion? If you do not have issues that are family related (include the wider family, adoptive family, guardian), consider other disappointments in your life with other people who are supposedly close to you.
- Take it easy on yourself, especially if you’re feeling down. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself. I totally agree with this statement as if I do not stress myself much and take it easy, I can avoid getting to fussed up and cramped in the mind. When I do something that makes me feel good, I gain self-confidence and self-esteem and I would not be feeling bad about the disappointment I have. Also doing something that feels good about myself, I tend to let go of myself and become somewhat more sensible than I was before so I get a chance to think and peacefully reflect on what I have been doing and the troubles I have in life. Since there is no point of solving it,
- No matter what the situation, try to find some sort of positive way to look at it. I also agree with this as when I start to find something positive to thing of, my thoughts start to become positive and solving problems and disappointments would not be a stressful thing. Being positive has this sense of rightfulness in yourself when you think about something or going to do something. If you wish and hope for the best, in this terms being positive, the results of that particular thing might be much on to the positive side than on the negative side as you are hoping for the best and eventually you get it with a positive mindset.
- Know that everyone goes through disappointment, and the feelings that go along with it wont last forever. I don’t really take much side on this statement as when I think that everyone goes through this, I think of the person who caused disappointment to me because it just comes up. Therefore instead of subsiding our sorrow, it makes it worse.
- Find a healthy way to express your emotions: Write in your Journal, do something creative, go for a walk, talk to someone. I agree with this statement as when I ‘express’ my emotions into something or with someone, I tend to let go of the pressure that it is giving me. When I go for a walk, I calm down and relax so I start to think of how to solve that problem or troubling matter properly with every piece in place.
- Try to keep things in perspective. One way to do this is to take the time to write down one thing everyday that you are thankful for. It can be something as big as an important person in your life to something as small as the Oreo cookie you had for dessert. Keeping this in mind and fulfilling it makes me feel lighter as if the bag full of tones of problems, tensions, sorrow, etc has been lifted of me and I’m like a free bird to do anything I want.