05 Extensive Reading Questions for Chapter 5: Stabbed in the Back
Joey’s Pain
Pre-Reading
Turn to page 146, do the ‘Where do you stand’ quiz.
I have been a bully before, as I had stood by and did nothing while my friends teased someone.
During-Reading
Why should Joey feel ashamed when he came back to school?
He failed at his suicide attempt, cutting his chin instead of his throat.
The author of the article said ‘ I don’t know whatever happened to him’. What do you think happened to Joey?
He went to a mental hospital, where he would be kept until he could be cured.
Post-Reading
If you were Maggie Jo Kundla who wrote this article, and you felt so strongly that you have to contact Joey to try say you were sorry, what are the possible things you could you do to find him?
Find out where he is at, then contact him, maybe even go down to tell him sorry face to face if possible.
Memoirs of a Ganger
Pre-Reading
- Why do you think people join a clique or group or gang?
They want a sense of belonging.
During-Reading
- How long was Jessie in the group before she realized she was really not welcomed and wanted by the rest of the girls?
She stayed with them until three of the clique saw her coming, then hid on top of the toilets. Then she left them.
- List three ways in this article that showed that the author of this article, Terry, was a bully or unkind and disrespectful to her peers.
She let others get bullied and just stood by watching.
Post-Reading
- Why didn’t Terry leave the clique when she knew it was not a very healthy one?
She did not want to leave behind the clique when she was still in high school.
Hung Out to Dry
Pre-Reading
- Consider the friends /classmates or people you spend time with. Would you think that they are healthy for you?
Most of them are kind and good to me, respecting my feelings. Yes, they are healthy for me.
During-Reading
In your own words, say what you think ‘five finger discounted’ means.
It means taking those jewelry for free.
Lindsey ‘was speechless’ when her two ‘best friends’ didn’t say a word to help me her out and left the store in the clear. Why was she reacting this way?
They were her two best friends, and should do everything to help her instead of abandoning or ditching her like this.
Although it was her mom who forbade Lindsey to talk to K.C. and Sarah, why would she be ashamed to talk to her two friends even if she could?
Yes, she would. She did not want to talk to them because she was too upset.
Post-Reading
- What would be some possible warning signs that your friends may not be good for you?
They are doing things that you yourself disapprove of.
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Pre-Reading
- What would you deem to be one thing that you would never expect a good friend would do to you?
Take you as a scrape goat, or befriend somebody who hurt you.
During-Reading
How was Alison different from Andi?
Alison was always calm, had no problems, and was always listening to Andi’s troubles without complaining. She was also more wealthy than Andi.
Post-Reading
Do you think it was acceptable that Alison ‘hooked up’ with Andi’s ex-boy friend? Give reason(s) to support your answer.
It is acceptable that she could hook up with Andi’s ex-boyfriend, as she had her own preferences, and Andi should learn how to forgive her ex-boyfriend and instead treat him like a normal friend, instead of holding grudges against him.
Andi ‘decided to forgive’ her friend? What are you thoughts about this decision?
She was right to do that, as it was not her friend’s fault for being attracted to her ex-boyfriend.
You to Blame
Pre-Reading
- Do you believe that the first love you’ll ever have would always be the only true love? Give a reason(s) for your answer.
No. She may betray you, or you may detest her after she shows her true colours.
During-Reading
What were the possible questions or words said before the responses of
1) “I’m not ready for a relationship’ and (Will you marry me in the future?)
2)“ I’m not feeling for you the same way”? (Do you love me as much as I love you?)
When ‘something plays like a record in a broken dream’, what does that imply about the thoughts of the person involved?
She/He is not comfortable in the situation, and dislikes the person, situation, or object.
Post-Reading
What would be some healthy and useful thoughts to help deal with being rejected or dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend or a close friend?
They were insincere. I don’t really care that much about her. She is not deserving of me. I can always find another girlfriend.
Thunder Still Roars
Pre-Reading
- Do you think it is okay to have pre-marital sex or are you one who advocates sex only after marriage?
Only after marriage, as pre-marital sex may cause relationship and life problems, like taking care of a baby when you are 15 years old.
During-Reading
What were the things Madison and her boyfriend used to do together?
They watched movies.
What were the signs to show that Madison’s boyfriend had changed his attitude towards her?
He did not call her after sending her home, sounded irritated after she called him, and did not wake her up with his daily morning calls.
Why do you think Madison’s boyfriend dumped her the night after he had sex with her?
He probably did not want to have anything to do with her just in case she had a baby, so that he had a chance to get away clean.
Post-Reading
- Why do you think ‘Thunder Still Roars’ was chosen as the title for this article?
She could not forget what happened between her and her boyfriend.
Standing Short
Pre-Reading
- Have you been or witnessed someone being humiliated by a teacher? How did you handle it or feel?
Everyone kept teasing him after the teacher scolded him. I felt bad for him, but I have to admit that I also joined in. After that, I told myself to refrain from making all those critical remarks about him anymore.
During-Reading
After the humiliation, how did Allyssa deal with the incident initially?
She complained to everyone including her parents and even her teachers.
What did Allyssa finally take away from that same incident?
She managed to get a small part in the play, but she also learnt that her height did not prevent her from achieving larger roles in plays or film productions.
Post-Reading
- What would be one thing you wished your teachers would do better in their treatment of students. Why?
If they wanted to criticise their students, they should do it discreetly, like asking the student to stay back to talk to him/her.
- If you had the good fortune of only meeting teachers who treated you well all these years, what would be the one thing you would want your teachers to keep doing?
To keep on supporting us, and being able to forgive us for most of the minor flaws that we make, like letting the occasional bad word or hurtful comment slip from our mouths.
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Sunday, February 13, 2011
Chicken soup Chapter 5 Blog question - Stabbed in the back
Blog Question
Do the five-questions quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175. For each answer you have chosen, say why you picked it, and what the expected consequences would be in making that choice and how you might handle those consequences.
Remember to elaborate and expand on your answers where possible. If an explanation or an example is needed to make your answer clearer or illustrate it better, please use it.
Also remember that this is a forty-five to fifty minutes writing exercise. By the fact that you are given this much time to response to the question, your answer should really be more than just five lines.
Also try to write it like an essay question and not treat it like a comprehension short question and answer exercise. You will need to organize your paragraphs by making sure that each new idea is in a new paragraph. If there is too much information, it might be better to use more paragraphs to separate out the information.
You could start with the following introduction or write your own version:
I did the quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175 and answered the questions as honestly as I could, given the three answer choices. For every answer, I will endeavor to say why I chose that answer, anticipate the consequences for choosing it as well as how I would handle these consequences.
You could then proceed to answer your questions sequentially. First, by reframing the questions into an answer form before you proceed to give your answer:
For first question that asked me about how I would react when my friend and I were told by my teacher to stay back after class when she thought we were cheating at our science test, I said I would…
I did the quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175 after reading finish Chapter 5 - Stabbed in the back.
The first question asked me about how I would react if my friend and I were told to stay back after a science test because she suspected us of cheating, so I said I would talk with the teacher after school and explain what happened, and tell my friend to confess if she still wanted to stay as my friend. I felt this way because my friend should not have been copying my work, but instead should have used what she could remember to answer the questions. Therefore, I saw there was no need to just suck it up, as I did not do anything wrong, only she did, so she should be the one trying not to make a big deal out of it, and apologize to me.
Next, the second one was about your best friend always acting like you’re number one until a new cool girl starts at your school, which makes your friend treat you like a second class citizen. I don’t like to be ditched like that, so I will do my best to stay friends with them all, maybe even the new girl. I may nearly have picked option C, but I decided that there was no reason to be hurt that badly. If things worked out, and you became good friends with the new girl, your old best friend may sincerely say sorry to you, or try to be good friends with you, If you can tell that she just wanted to get closer to the new girl, then I would tell her about how her actions have hurt me.
The third question asks me how do I feel if I see one of my closest friends making out with a girl I have a crush on, and he knows that because I told him about it all. I would call him next time, and then tell him that if he wanted to gain my trust back, he should explain what happened and do what he can to make things right. He should have been more sensitive towards the feelings of his friend as he should have respected ‘me’ instead of making out with the very person his friend had a crush on. If he still does not repent, you should just let it go, or make new friends.
The fourth is about your best friend following everything you do in school, not just that, but she even competes with you, even resorting to sabotage just to make herself look better. I will just focus on doing my own thing, without making it personal, as it is better to just go along than to break up with your friend just because of such a minor incident. I would just tolerate it. In fact, due to the incompetence she sees, she may just find it childish and give up on such immature thoughts.
The alternative is to drop out of some things, to let her win over you, and perhaps she may get sick and tired of it, or understand that you want her to stop. My best option though, is to help her when she is in need, despite the fact that she may be competing with me, as she may finally see that friends do not need to compete. They can achieve better results just by working together.
The Final question states that you tell your closest friend some painful and personal problems of your private life, but when you notice another friend letting it slip, you realise that your friend has betrayed your trust. Naturally (and predictably), I would be seething with anger, with all my hate directed at her. I would just tell her how I feel, then dump her as a friend. But no. In this life, we must be able to forgive and forget.
Remember how many times we wronged our parents, whether it is hurting their feelings, or wasting their effort (for the really serious, playing truant), they always - for some, mostly forgive you, over time. Now, we also have to learn the ability to forgive and forget. Fuming and ditching aren’t going to get you far in life. At work, if the boss treats your badly, you immediately throw in the towel. Now, if you continue at this rate, you will never get a stable job. Same for your friends. This is why, we must pick option C, to let your friends know your feelings. If they are really your friends, they would understand and be sincere in their apologies, knowing how you put your trust in them.
But, anyway, I have to say… I got 3Cs, 1B and 1A. 120 points… So, I have to speak up more? Ok. I have learnt that we must be able to forgive our friends, if they are sincere. Also, we should respect our friends and not invade their privacy nor spread rumours/secrets from or about them. Taking question 4 as an example, I think that we should play fair and go by our own intellect or skills, instead of playing dirty. It is, after all, friendly competition. Even when your friends join others, you can try to befriend everybody, but always be prepared for the possibility of getting new friends.
We know that sometimes friends do something special for each other, like giving tuition, but if you know that it is morally wrong, from giving an answer in exam to smoking a cigarette to consuming drugs, you must not give in to peer pressure. But you can say ‘I won’t give in!’ but look what happened to some people when everybody started getting iPhones. Anyway, that’s beside the point. The point is, listen to yourself. Even though everybody says smoking is cool, you know the consequences, so you give it a miss. And, if you have some sway in the school, try to stop others from having wrong mindsets, like implying to them that gaming in school is not cool or something.
Thus, I end my analysis of the quiz results for ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’.
TSW
P.S. Sorry if I went slightly out of point for the bit about the iPhones
Do the five-questions quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175. For each answer you have chosen, say why you picked it, and what the expected consequences would be in making that choice and how you might handle those consequences.
Remember to elaborate and expand on your answers where possible. If an explanation or an example is needed to make your answer clearer or illustrate it better, please use it.
Also remember that this is a forty-five to fifty minutes writing exercise. By the fact that you are given this much time to response to the question, your answer should really be more than just five lines.
Also try to write it like an essay question and not treat it like a comprehension short question and answer exercise. You will need to organize your paragraphs by making sure that each new idea is in a new paragraph. If there is too much information, it might be better to use more paragraphs to separate out the information.
You could start with the following introduction or write your own version:
I did the quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175 and answered the questions as honestly as I could, given the three answer choices. For every answer, I will endeavor to say why I chose that answer, anticipate the consequences for choosing it as well as how I would handle these consequences.
You could then proceed to answer your questions sequentially. First, by reframing the questions into an answer form before you proceed to give your answer:
For first question that asked me about how I would react when my friend and I were told by my teacher to stay back after class when she thought we were cheating at our science test, I said I would…
I did the quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175 after reading finish Chapter 5 - Stabbed in the back.
The first question asked me about how I would react if my friend and I were told to stay back after a science test because she suspected us of cheating, so I said I would talk with the teacher after school and explain what happened, and tell my friend to confess if she still wanted to stay as my friend. I felt this way because my friend should not have been copying my work, but instead should have used what she could remember to answer the questions. Therefore, I saw there was no need to just suck it up, as I did not do anything wrong, only she did, so she should be the one trying not to make a big deal out of it, and apologize to me.
Next, the second one was about your best friend always acting like you’re number one until a new cool girl starts at your school, which makes your friend treat you like a second class citizen. I don’t like to be ditched like that, so I will do my best to stay friends with them all, maybe even the new girl. I may nearly have picked option C, but I decided that there was no reason to be hurt that badly. If things worked out, and you became good friends with the new girl, your old best friend may sincerely say sorry to you, or try to be good friends with you, If you can tell that she just wanted to get closer to the new girl, then I would tell her about how her actions have hurt me.
The third question asks me how do I feel if I see one of my closest friends making out with a girl I have a crush on, and he knows that because I told him about it all. I would call him next time, and then tell him that if he wanted to gain my trust back, he should explain what happened and do what he can to make things right. He should have been more sensitive towards the feelings of his friend as he should have respected ‘me’ instead of making out with the very person his friend had a crush on. If he still does not repent, you should just let it go, or make new friends.
The fourth is about your best friend following everything you do in school, not just that, but she even competes with you, even resorting to sabotage just to make herself look better. I will just focus on doing my own thing, without making it personal, as it is better to just go along than to break up with your friend just because of such a minor incident. I would just tolerate it. In fact, due to the incompetence she sees, she may just find it childish and give up on such immature thoughts.
The alternative is to drop out of some things, to let her win over you, and perhaps she may get sick and tired of it, or understand that you want her to stop. My best option though, is to help her when she is in need, despite the fact that she may be competing with me, as she may finally see that friends do not need to compete. They can achieve better results just by working together.
The Final question states that you tell your closest friend some painful and personal problems of your private life, but when you notice another friend letting it slip, you realise that your friend has betrayed your trust. Naturally (and predictably), I would be seething with anger, with all my hate directed at her. I would just tell her how I feel, then dump her as a friend. But no. In this life, we must be able to forgive and forget.
Remember how many times we wronged our parents, whether it is hurting their feelings, or wasting their effort (for the really serious, playing truant), they always - for some, mostly forgive you, over time. Now, we also have to learn the ability to forgive and forget. Fuming and ditching aren’t going to get you far in life. At work, if the boss treats your badly, you immediately throw in the towel. Now, if you continue at this rate, you will never get a stable job. Same for your friends. This is why, we must pick option C, to let your friends know your feelings. If they are really your friends, they would understand and be sincere in their apologies, knowing how you put your trust in them.
But, anyway, I have to say… I got 3Cs, 1B and 1A. 120 points… So, I have to speak up more? Ok. I have learnt that we must be able to forgive our friends, if they are sincere. Also, we should respect our friends and not invade their privacy nor spread rumours/secrets from or about them. Taking question 4 as an example, I think that we should play fair and go by our own intellect or skills, instead of playing dirty. It is, after all, friendly competition. Even when your friends join others, you can try to befriend everybody, but always be prepared for the possibility of getting new friends.
We know that sometimes friends do something special for each other, like giving tuition, but if you know that it is morally wrong, from giving an answer in exam to smoking a cigarette to consuming drugs, you must not give in to peer pressure. But you can say ‘I won’t give in!’ but look what happened to some people when everybody started getting iPhones. Anyway, that’s beside the point. The point is, listen to yourself. Even though everybody says smoking is cool, you know the consequences, so you give it a miss. And, if you have some sway in the school, try to stop others from having wrong mindsets, like implying to them that gaming in school is not cool or something.
Thus, I end my analysis of the quiz results for ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’.
TSW
P.S. Sorry if I went slightly out of point for the bit about the iPhones
Friday, February 11, 2011
CCChhheeeeeeeeekkkaaaaaaaaaaannn XXXuuuuuuuuupp by Ray
I did the quiz ‘Can you handle being stabbed in the back?’ on page 175 and answered the questions as honestly as I could, given the three answer choices. For every answer, I will endeavor to say why I chose that answer, anticipate the consequences for choosing it as well as how I would handle these consequences.
Ok. Now the first question is what would I do if a slacker peeks at my science test and the invigilator caught us, I would choose C: Convince the teacher that it is that cheater that cheated, give me a retest and show that I can excel the test and shout, "IN YOUR FACE!" to her when I excel. The reason is because to me, I have this vision that is, I do what can, I get what I deserve. So, if I studied super hard for the test, I should get super high marks for it, even if a guy comes and obstructs it. But, the friend wants to cheat, give him the consequences. SO, I really do not care(not really 100%) that if the guy gets suspension, does not get a job, jumps off a building or what, but he got what he is supposed to get.
The second question asks that if my best friend suddenly finds a new BFF and becomes friends with that guy and sweeps me aside, I would choose C. I will tell the person what I feel and if I cannot brainwash him, I will find a new friend. I do not care whether they are fated to be with each other and be friends with no one else or what, as long as I get my friend, I am happy. People have to understand what other people feel, and not be a selfish freak that only cares what they want and get without minding others. That is the reason why we have 7 billion people on a planet called Earth in the Solar System in the Milky Way in the Local Cluster for in the first place, or else, the population of Homosapiens would be 1 and 1 80 years later, 1000 years later and 1 million years later.
Question 3 is asking me that if a guy steals "my" girl(to prevent confusions from Foo Ming Yong, Tai Chen Yu, Yu Jin Qian and Tan Siah Wei), I would go and break friendship with that guy. C. The is a saying that goes,n 'One Man stands for himself'. I will only do that during emergencies like fires, earthquakes, sinking ships, etc and many more). I really do not know about all these stuff, ok? I would kindly *AHEM* ask the guy to tell me why is he trying to date the novia española. It's very hard for guys to talk about this stuff unless I have a lovebird, ok? Now FOO MING YONG please don't post my nonsensical comments.
SO the 4th question is that there is a guy that keeps following you and does whatever you do. What would I do? I would do C, thinking that this is natural as we are friends and we should have the same interest. So if he wants to follow, let him. I would have a good competitor and I should not nose why is he following my every move. We should not be kaypohs in life and mind one's own business. Just think positive and think that your friend likes you and what you do and does what you do. OK? Settled.
FINALLY! Question 5 is when you tell your friend secrets, and he tells everybody in the whole world about it, what will I do? I will do A and then C. I mean, I will ignore my friend, and then when he comes and kneels in front of me to say sorry, I will forgive him and rebuild our friendship. However, if he does not come and say sorry, I will heck care him too. So and then I will find a new friend myself. Fullstop. It is up to that guy to confess his wrong and not me to plead him, kneel and bow to him for him just to say sorry. If he does not want to, so be it. Alright? Bye now.
FINALLY! Question 5 is when you tell your friend secrets, and he tells everybody in the whole world about it, what will I do? I will do A and then C. I mean, I will ignore my friend, and then when he comes and kneels in front of me to say sorry, I will forgive him and rebuild our friendship. However, if he does not come and say sorry, I will heck care him too. So and then I will find a new friend myself. Fullstop. It is up to that guy to confess his wrong and not me to plead him, kneel and bow to him for him just to say sorry. If he does not want to, so be it. Alright? Bye now.
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