Chicken soup Chapter 6 - What's happening out there?

06 Extensive Reading Questions for Chapter 6, What’s happening out there?

1. Living in a World of Fear

Pre-Reading

-  Do you feel safe in school? You can consider safety from either physical abuse or verbal abuse or both.

Yes I do. Not many people bully me.

During-Reading

• Why did a stranger deem Kelly ‘the crazy girl’ in Basha High school?

Everyone did not know what Kelly’s real intentions were, nor whether she was really serious.

• Why did Sarah, the author of the article, respond with anger by correcting her that it was ‘Kelly’ and not  ‘the crazy girl’?
• She did not want Kelly to be remembered as the crazy girl as Kelly may not have meant harm at all and was fully innocent.
• What was the school’s reaction to the plans made for a school shooting and anything related to it? Why do you think they reacted so?
• A meeting was held and there was a lot of media, with extra security guards sent over from other neighbouring high schools.
• Do you think Kelly was fairly treated? Give reasons to support your answer.
• No. She should have been given a chance to explain the drawings. Perhaps it was another friend who had planned the shooting spree.

Post-Reading

• When people have fear of what they don’t know or don’t understand, they tend to over react or at least make decisions. Is this a justifiable reaction?
• Yes it is, as people naturally tend to prefer being safe rather than sorry.
• Students snap under pressure and sometimes they act this out violently against other students and teachers. In Singapore, there is little possibility for carrying a gun to school but there are other acts of violence that happen. What are some of them and how can you prevent them?
• Assault on fellow students, happy-slapping, harmful pranks, that can be prevented if we just control our emotions, or resist the temptation to disturb our classmates.

1. The Day We Lost So Much

Pre-Reading

- Do you have any fears? What are they if you have them? If you don’t have any fears, what are some fears you know your friends or other people have?

An endless amount of homework that I have no idea how to do, People misunderstanding me big time, and most of all, getting blamed for something I did not do (It really pisses me off, and I mean it.)

During-Reading

- What were the reactions of the following people mentioned in the article when the Twin Towers were attacked and then when it later collapsed and during the aftermath:

Jane’s parents were watching the news and could not believe their eyes. The author was confused as to why and what the Twin Towers were. Students in school were all talking about it. But when the twin towers collapsed, they were shocked and worried for their family, blaming each other. The girl whose mother was in New York was very worried, while teachers tried their best to act calm but the students still could tell something went horribly wrong.

Jane; the author of the article; her parents; students in school in general; the girl in her school whose mother was in New York then; the teachers in school; and some other people in general.

Post-Reading

-  Towards the end of the article, Jane suggested that we should not spend our energy looking for people to blame for something bad that had happened.  She instead, suggested a proactive approach to help people affected by the bad incident, remember the good in their glorious moments and smile in the face of despair. She believes this might change the future. What do you think of Jane’s stand? Give reasons to support your stand.

Yes. By being optimistic, most people would already have overcome their fear and depression caused by this incident. By remembering the good in their glorious moments, you will see them now as they used to be, rather than to think of them as dead or destroyed.

1. Looking Back

Pre-Reading

- Have you ever thought of or have been involved in raising funds or helping out in any voluntary situations for disaster relief?

No. I am sad to say that I do not really think about such things nor do I have the time. I feel pity for them, but I just feel that this is not my sort of thing, I am sorry.

During-Reading

• How is the author of this article, Paulina, different in her reaction to the 9/11 tragedy from the Jane, the author of the previous article? In particular, what sort of feelings does she have?
• She has a phobia of planes as something very disastrous and more serious than what Jane experienced had happened to her.
• Why is it that every time an airplane passes by, Paulina’s mood changes as quickly as the plane passes?
• She gets scared and hallucinates that the plane is either flying too low, or plunging towards the ground.

Post-Reading

Do you think Paulina’s fears are rational? Why or why not?

No, they are not, as most planes do not fly too low. She is just imagining and recounting the incident, but her fears are false.

1. Recovering from My Own Epidemic

Pre-Reading

- What do you remember (you were probably 6 or 7 years old then) or know about the SARS (Avian bird flu pandemic) scare?

Many people died, very serious. That’s about it.

During-Reading

• What were the steps taken by the teachers and school for the prevention and the spread of SARS? 
• The teachers ordered the students to wear their masks, wash their hands, and not to have any physical contact.
• How did the SARS epidemic change the author of this article, Eri’s life?
• She had a different outlook on life, and decided to stop pretending and be the person that she really was.
• What were the thoughts that motivated this change?
• She looked back on happier times and asked herself whether this was really the life she wanted.

Post-Reading

- How appropriate do you think the title of this article ‘Recovering from my own epidemic’ is? Give a reason(s) to support your answer.

The ‘epidemic’ refers to the SARS, and Eri undergoing her own changes. Since the epidemic was so hard to control, Eri also called her process an epidemic as it was difficult for her.

6. Prejudice 

Pre-Reading

-Why do you think students are constantly asked to recite the Singapore pledge? We the citizens of Singapore, pledge ourselves as one united people, regardless of race, language or religion, to build democratic society so as to achieve happiness, prosperity for our nation.

We must remember that all of us are equals and none of us are more superior than others all because of our race, religion, appearance anything else that differentiates us from others.

During-Reading

- What is meant by ‘Difference is the brother of inferiority’?

It means that people always mark others as inferior by comparing the difference between themselves and others.

-  Why is it that when the dark skinned girl is saying the same words that came out the author, Brooke’s mouth yesterday, it will be disregarded? 

Brooke is trying to imply that since dark skinned people are inferior to white skinned people, only those like Brooke can speak, while those like the dark skinned girl have no say at all.

Post-Reading

- Universities and educational institutes with a global focus strive to have a 10-20% percentage of foreign students. What are some of the advantages of having classmates from different races and different countries?

We get to interact with others, and are also educated that all of us are equals, and with the presence of foreign students, we are able to appreciate and understand the uniqueness of each and every one of us.

Chicken soup Chapter 6 - What's happening out there? blog question

From what I can understand, these types of Teenagers were derived from the quiz ‘How do you cope with what’s going on in the world out there’. I did this quiz and I got 2 As and 3Bs. Therefore, I am a type B teenager.

Question 1 - The US was involved in an overseas conflict that I don’t like, and I am also afraid that it my affect my older brother. I will always stand up for my family, and, I am not alone! There are several student rallies out there that I can just join. Someone will pass me a banner or tell me what to do. We will be united and be able to persuade the government to stop the conflict, therefore preventing my brother from being affected. 

From this analysis, I have learnt that we must stand up for what we really want, and to take action, not just to live inside your own cocoon and not care about what is going on in the world out there. We can learn how to accept things as they change, either for the better or for the good. If we strongly disagree with that changed thing, then we should change what we can.

Question 2 tells us about the reactions of our school when a school shooting plan is uncovered at a neighboring school. They install mega metal detectors, cell phones are prohibited, and all Internet searches in the library are monitored. I feel that the school is overreacting, but it is better to be safe than sorry, so I would prefer to just abide to the rules. Also, sometimes being over prepared may just save us from the incident just in case we underestimated the dangers, or missed out on one of the minor things that may just render all other installments useless.

We could not have prevented the shooting plans from being discovered. We could have made a student led watchdog organisation, but, does the school trust us? In fact, the one leading the watchdog organisation may be the very person who is planning the shooting spree. Also, being the teenagers that we are, most of us will give in to peer pressure. The school may be overcautious because they do not trust us, but that does not mean we need to hate them for that, nor do we need to try to earn their trust if we did nothing wrong, honestly speaking.

For Question 3, The US government has raised the terror alert warning one level for New York City, during New Year’s Eve, asking citizens to be especially vigilant. I live in Little Rock, Arkansas, more than a thousand miles away. I agree that being cautious is extremely vital, but sometimes we cannot control everything. Since I am so far away from New York, there is a small probability that something serious would happen right here. So, I decide to go on with life as normal, and not let such a minuscule matter ruin my mood for the day.

Raising a terror alert so far away does not mean we do not need to be vigilant at all, but we do not have to be so tense to expect to be attacked any moment. It is normal for most people to be tense at first, but they will get over it almost immediately, and life will continue as usual. We just have to be mentally prepared for an attack, but we can continue our lives just the same. Being paranoid may be an advantage, but it can also cause a duller perspective on life, and you will not enjoy as many things as others as you feel you are unable to take risks.

In Question 4, you are asked what you do when a natural disaster similar to Hurricane Katrina hits the Southwestern United States, where thousands of people are killed and injured, and countless others are homeless. Seeing it all on CNN, I would feel very sad for all those people, but I disappoint myself by saying that I do not really feel sad for them after it wears off, as I am not there to experience it, and therefore do not feel much for them. Also, I remind myself that I do not have such expendable time to spend raising funds just to help those people. I may have exams coming up, or need to raise my subject scores by revising.

Okay, I admit. You may say, “Yes, all the more you should help them. If you manage to help them while managing your studies, it will all the more show how passionate you are about helping people” I agree, but no thank you. Why? Because I do not want to risk flunking my exams, nor becoming a laughing stock all because in the end I could not manage what I told others I would do. I am not overambitious, and all I want is just to be decent enough to get through life easily.

Finally, Question 5 tells me about a major political scandal that has the whole government in an upheaval. Even though I am not old enough to vote yet, I know that what happens in the government today is going to impact my future. I want to take a stand about it, but I just do not think it is such a good idea, as it may be futile. In fact, It may just earn me extra hostility from the government, and I may also have to suffer humiliating consequences like being rejected by the newspaper, who is trying to get on the good side of the winning party.I never understood politics and never really cared about it. I also do not like standing against changes alone. 

If there are many others who are also rejecting this change, I will join them to make a difference. But if I am the only person against the change, I will not do anything and accept it as it comes (unless I am totally against it and not accepting it at all). If that is so, I will give it all my effort and believe that one person can make that tiny difference. I may not be able to change anything, but I can be the one to spark the change. That tiny difference I make may inspire others to take the stand. Only then can we achieve what we set out to do.

The best altitude anybody can have is to balance caution and risks, to know when the risk is too great, or where your limit is. By doing this, you will not be so paranoid such that everything scares you to hiding in your home, nor will you be so reckless it may seem you can get yourself killed anytime. Knowing how to enjoy things in life yet be able to prevent harm from coming to you is the most efficient way to spend your life. Thank You.


TSW

Chicken soup Chapter 5 - Stabbed in the back

05 Extensive Reading Questions for Chapter 5: Stabbed in the Back
Joey’s Pain
Pre-Reading
Turn to page 146, do the ‘Where do you stand’ quiz.
I have been a bully before, as I had stood by and did nothing while my friends teased someone.
During-Reading
Why should Joey feel ashamed when he came back to school?
He failed at his suicide attempt, cutting his chin instead of his throat.
The author of the article said ‘ I don’t know whatever happened to him’. What do you think happened to Joey?
He went to a mental hospital, where he would be kept until he could be cured.
Post-Reading
If you were Maggie Jo Kundla who wrote this article, and you felt so strongly that you have to contact Joey to try say you were sorry, what are the possible things you could you do to find him?
Find out where he is at, then contact him, maybe even go down to tell him sorry face to face if possible.
Memoirs of a Ganger
Pre-Reading
- Why do you think people join a clique or group or gang?
They want a sense of belonging.
During-Reading
- How long was Jessie in the group before she realized she was really not welcomed and wanted by the rest of the girls?
She stayed with them until three of the clique saw her coming, then hid on top of the toilets. Then she left them.
- List three ways in this article that showed that the author of this article, Terry, was a bully or unkind and disrespectful to her peers.
She let others get bullied and just stood by watching.
Post-Reading
- Why didn’t Terry leave the clique when she knew it was not a very healthy one?
She did not want to leave behind the clique when she was still in high school.
Hung Out to Dry
Pre-Reading
- Consider the friends /classmates or people you spend time with. Would you think that they are healthy for you?
Most of them are kind and good to me, respecting my feelings. Yes, they are healthy for me.
During-Reading
In your own words, say what you think ‘five finger discounted’ means.
It means taking those jewelry for free.
Lindsey ‘was speechless’ when her two ‘best friends’ didn’t say a word to help me her out and left the store in the clear. Why was she reacting this way?
They were her two best friends, and should do everything to help her instead of abandoning or ditching her like this.
Although it was her mom who forbade Lindsey to talk to K.C. and Sarah, why would she be ashamed to talk to her two friends even if she could?
Yes, she would. She did not want to talk to them because she was too upset.
Post-Reading
- What would be some possible warning signs that your friends may not be good for you?
They are doing things that you yourself disapprove of.
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Pre-Reading
- What would you deem to be one thing that you would never expect a good friend would do to you?
Take you as a scrape goat, or befriend somebody who hurt you.
During-Reading
How was Alison different from Andi?
Alison was always calm, had no problems, and was always listening to Andi’s troubles without complaining. She was also more wealthy than Andi.
Post-Reading
Do you think it was acceptable that Alison ‘hooked up’ with Andi’s ex-boy friend? Give reason(s) to support your answer.
It is acceptable that she could hook up with Andi’s ex-boyfriend, as she had her own preferences, and Andi should learn how to forgive her ex-boyfriend and instead treat him like a normal friend, instead of holding grudges against him.
Andi ‘decided to forgive’ her friend? What are you thoughts about this decision?
She was right to do that, as it was not her friend’s fault for being attracted to her ex-boyfriend.
You to Blame
Pre-Reading
- Do you believe that the first love you’ll ever have would always be the only true love? Give a reason(s) for your answer.
No. She may betray you, or you may detest her after she shows her true colours.
During-Reading
What were the possible questions or words said before the responses of
1) “I’m not ready for a relationship’ and (Will you marry me in the future?)
2)“ I’m not feeling for you the same way”? (Do you love me as much as I love you?)
When ‘something plays like a record in a broken dream’, what does that imply about the thoughts of the person involved?
She/He is not comfortable in the situation, and dislikes the person, situation, or object.
Post-Reading
What would be some healthy and useful thoughts to help deal with being rejected or dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend or a close friend?
They were insincere. I don’t really care that much about her. She is not deserving of me. I can always find another girlfriend.
Thunder Still Roars
Pre-Reading
- Do you think it is okay to have pre-marital sex or are you one who advocates sex only after marriage?
Only after marriage, as pre-marital sex may cause relationship and life problems, like taking care of a baby when you are 15 years old.
During-Reading
What were the things Madison and her boyfriend used to do together?
They watched movies.
What were the signs to show that Madison’s boyfriend had changed his attitude towards her?
He did not call her after sending her home, sounded irritated after she called him, and did not wake her up with his daily morning calls.
Why do you think Madison’s boyfriend dumped her the night after he had sex with her?
He probably did not want to have anything to do with her just in case she had a baby, so that he had a chance to get away clean.
Post-Reading
- Why do you think ‘Thunder Still Roars’ was chosen as the title for this article?
She could not forget what happened between her and her boyfriend.
Standing Short
Pre-Reading
- Have you been or witnessed someone being humiliated by a teacher? How did you handle it or feel?
Everyone kept teasing him after the teacher scolded him. I felt bad for him, but I have to admit that I also joined in. After that, I told myself to refrain from making all those critical remarks about him anymore.
During-Reading
After the humiliation, how did Allyssa deal with the incident initially?
She complained to everyone including her parents and even her teachers.
What did Allyssa finally take away from that same incident?
She managed to get a small part in the play, but she also learnt that her height did not prevent her from achieving larger roles in plays or film productions.
Post-Reading
- What would be one thing you wished your teachers would do better in their treatment of students. Why?
If they wanted to criticise their students, they should do it discreetly, like asking the student to stay back to talk to him/her.
- If you had the good fortune of only meeting teachers who treated you well all these years, what would be the one thing you would want your teachers to keep doing?
To keep on supporting us, and being able to forgive us for most of the minor flaws that we make, like letting the occasional bad word or hurtful comment slip from our mouths.

04 Extensive Reading Questions for Chapter Four: Losing It

04 Extensive Reading Questions for Chapter Four: Losing It

1. No Day but Today

Pre-Reading 

• What do you think ‘live for the moment’ means?
• It means to live like everyday is your last.

During-Reading 

• As a teenager, the author, Mary, says that Middle School (Secondary School equivalent) is a hard time for everyone but she had to deal with more. What did Mary have to deal with?

She had to deal with the fact that her father would die of cancer soon in a few years so her time with him was limited.

• Why would Mary have mixed feelings when her father passed away?

She did not want her father to leave their family, but she was also happy for her father as he did not need to suffer anymore.

• Mary said that ‘we simply loved each other and tied up many loose ends as possible’. What could these ‘loose ends’ be?

They may have had arguments in the past, and held grudges against each other.

• Post-Reading

Give at least 3 advantages of living each day like your last. Can you also think of a couple of disadvantages?

Everyone was united and loved each other, making amends for past mistakes or misunderstandings and there was a strong bond of trust among the family members. Everyone may have hid their sadness and worry for Mary’s father, but they are very stressed inside.

1. I’m No Longer Mad

Pre-Reading

• Recall an instance you lost someone (could be through death or through separation because you migrated, etc.) or lost a pet. 
• If you had none of these experiences, consider how you will feel if you lost someone you love dearly suddenly.

I would be devastated and probably go into a state of depression. I will do my best to recover from it though. I will always think of my pet or the person as alive, and never dead.

During-Reading

• Why does the author claim she is no longer mad?

She has forgiven her father for leaving her.

Post-Reading

Consider the ‘five stages of grief’ by Dr E Kubler-Ross on page 101. Does this ring a bell for you in your experiences with grief or loss of a pet/someone? If yes, describe how you dealt with the loss of a loved one (could be human or animal). If you were fortunate enough not have experience grief due to the loss of a loved one, what do you think your reaction would be if you know you will be losing someone / a pet in the near future?

I will try to spend as much time with that person/pet so that I will not regret not utilising my time properly after he/she/it is gone.

1. My Gift of Life

Pre-Reading

- This might seem morbid but what if you were told that you were diagnosed a terminal illness or a major disease such as cancer or a failing liver…  What would be your first reaction?

Shock, but later I would inform everyone important to me, so that if I died nobody would be shocked.

During-Reading

• How many surgeries did the author, Sarah, go through in total? What were they for?

She went through seven surgeries to mend the severe damage done to the kidney by the fluid built up in her organs. The last surgery was for a kidney transplant.

• Why would Sarah be ‘embarrassed by the whole situation’ (bottom of pg. 105)?

She was afraid of the pain and did not want to go through it again, but she could not tell others except for her closest friends or else she would face humiliation.

• Sarah cried when she realized her mother had to spend Mother’s Day in the hospital with her.  It was obvious she felt that her mom should not have been stuck in the hospital with her.  What does it imply about the kind of Mother’s Day her mother should be spending? 

She should have been spending her time at home relaxing and celebrating Mother’s Day.

• With kidneys that had only 10% kidney function, Sarah is still very active playing competitive softball. How is this possible?

She was very determined in her goals and wanted to be able to achieve them.

• The few weeks before her final surgery, Sarah’s parents were crying and talking on the phone a lot? What do you think was happening & why?

They were trying to persuade the potential kidney donor to donate her kidney, and after they succeeded, the donor had a kidney stone, which made them all the more worried for their daughter. 

Post- Reading

- If you were in Sarah’s position, with such weak kidneys, how would your parents react to your insistence on playing competitive softball?  Why do you think they react that way?

They would freak out and try to keep me at home, because they do not want me to endanger my condition, and to survive until I get a kidney donor.

1. A Broken Fence

Pre-Reading

Recall a time you would have liked things to have been different.

When I was in the principal’s office for committing an offense.

During-Reading

• What vehicle did Heather and her friend ride in? What were the clues to tell you?

A quad bike. The vehicle had four wheels, they still wore helmet.

• Heather said ‘ I leaned beside her, this not making sense’? What was it that didn’t make sense to her?

She was dazed, and was still in shock, so she did not believe that this was happening.

• ‘She’d escaped death’s grip but the damage was done’ tells you that Heather’s friend didn’t die. However, what do you think could have been the damage that was done?

Her friend probably had a broken limb, or became mentally impaired.

Post-Reading

- On face level, the title ‘Broken Fence’ refers the section of the fence that Heather and her friend hit and broke. However, ‘Broken Fence’ could mean more than just that. What do you think it could mean with regard to the whole accident? Explain.

She probably ‘broke’ her friend, either making her mentally disabled, or breaking their friendship.

1. Chain Reaction

Pre-Reading

- Do the experiment on the bottom half of page 116. If you still haven’t found close friends, it’s perfectly fine and normal. Just do the exercise based on three classmates/school mates you are generally comfortable talking to.

PRIVATE!!! Because I don’t want to offend somebody.

During-Reading

• If you met someone like Ashley with her hair in knots and wearing shoes covered with holes, what would the three things you would naturally think about her straightaway?

She was untidy, poor and blur.

• What was the chain-reaction that the title was referring to?

It refers to the chain reaction of kindness that Ashley wanted to start, where people felt good about themselves and people stopped making fun of others.

Post-Reading

- Imagine you were Ashley’s mother. What were the words you would have said to Megan to help her cope with Ashley’s death?

Everybody will die someday. Its not a matter of living a longer life, but what you did with the years given to you that will make an impact.

1. The Day an Angel was Made

Pre-Reading

- In your opinion, how old should one be at least before Death takes him/her away? Why?

They can go at anytime, as long as they have fulfilled their potential.

During-Reading

• The two friends, Shayln and Mackenzie talked about all the fun times they all had with Devon who had recently passed away. Why do people do that?

They are trying to make themselves remember Devon while she was alive, and not when she is dead.

• How much should Devon’s brother be blamed for her death?

He cannot be blamed for fighting with her. Looking at the situation, the outcome could be the exact opposite. Should Devon then be blamed for her brother’s death? I don’t think so.

• Life ‘can never be the same’ when you lose someone/ a pet you love and in this recount, Mackenzie used at least three ways to keep Devon’s memory alive. What were they?

She remembered her times with Devon, and would seek emotional support from her at her gravestone in the cemetery. She also thought that Devon looked peaceful.

• The title was ‘The day an angel was made’ and ‘the angel’ referred to Devon. What were her attributes that made Mackenzie call her ‘an angel’?

She never let a smile on her face turn into a frown. She was always cheerful, loving and caring.

Post-Reading

• What one thing would you like to be remembered for if you had to leave this world before your friends?

For changing my attitude?

1. My Star Girl

Pre-Reading

- When you care for someone, how do you show it? Just name one way.

By helping them when you can.

During-Reading

• What changed Elyse for the worse?

She started to smoke.

• The author of the article claimed that ‘there was nothing I could do’ and insist that ‘there’s nothing we can do when a friend takes a turn down the wrong path’ and that her friend ‘had to find her own solution to her problems’. If you had to disagree with these claims, how would you argue your opposing perspective?

We could try to slowly stop them through peer influence. Still, there IS a limit to such things, so we cannot always expect to control our friends.

Post-Reading

• Complete the quiz of 5 questions on page 129 ‘Where do you stand?’ For every answer you give, give a reason why you took that stand.

1. Get involved | 2.We don’t have a school dance. But keep an eye open anyway | 3.Get involved DUH! | 4.Keep an eye open. He is probably emoing out like Somebody| 5. Keep an eye open, because if I get involved she may beat me up or become a sociopath.

• Read ‘Codependency’ Pg. 130. Are you in a co-dependent situation? If you are, then think of what you should do to get out of that state. If you are not, then what would you do to ensure you do not end up being in a co-dependent state with troubled friends?

1. An Unforgettable Storm

Pre-Reading

- In your opinion, what is the best way for your friend to support you if you had a problem?

He/She could help me to understand and maybe even resolve my problems.

During-Reading

- When the floods came after Hurricane Katrina, people in New Orleans reacted in differently. From the article, list at least three ways people reacted in the article.

Many people were looting from other stores, their neighbors. Gabrielle  even commented that she recognised some of those people to be their regular customers. There was also a man who help to warn Gabrielle and her family of the returning floodwater and told them to flee.

Post-Reading

- Gabrielle was only going to visit her Mother and new brother for Christmas. Why do you think she isn’t she going back to New Orleans for good? 

Everyone who had helped them and gave them joy were all there, which made everyday seem to be a birthday for gabrielle.

Chicken soup Chapter 4 - Losing it blog question

Question for Blogging

What can you learn or take away from each of the eight chapters? Please consider information from the spotlight articles associated with the corresponding chapters.

To help you answer the above question, you could:

- pick out one  or more things you think is important to help you be a better person or friend and elaborate on it.

- consider if there was anything to help you cope with losing someone/some people through death, through geographical distance,  etc.  Say why it is helpful.

I could be more understanding, and know when my friend is unhappy or in a bad mood. I could help them through all troubles, and if I feel it is morally right, I will do it.(let’s say the government is corrupt, and you want to get your friend out of a sticky situation kind of thing).

You have to understand the situation and accept it Deal with it or adapt to it. After all, only you can bring your perspective on life back to its original position after losing someone.